What Is Asexuality?
Asexuality is a sexual orientation defined by experiencing little or no sexual attraction to others. Asexual (often called “ace”) individuals may still experience romantic attraction, emotional intimacy, and meaningful relationships. Asexuality exists on a spectrum, and each person’s experience is unique.
For many people, discovering or questioning an asexual identity is a process of self-exploration that can bring clarity, relief, confusion, or mixed emotions—especially in a society that often assumes sexual attraction is universal.
Exploring an Asexual Identity
Identity exploration is not about fitting into a label perfectly—it’s about understanding what feels authentic. Some people recognize their asexuality early in life, while others come to the realization later, often after years of feeling “different” or pressured to meet sexual expectations.
Exploration may include:
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Reflecting on attraction, desire, and boundaries
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Learning about asexual and ace-spectrum identities (e.g., demisexual, gray-asexual)
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Navigating dating, relationships, or partnership expectations
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Coming out—or choosing not to—at one’s own pace
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Releasing shame tied to cultural or relational pressure
There is no timeline or “right way” to identify as asexual.
Common Mental Health Difficulties for Asexual Individuals
While asexuality itself is not a mental health condition, ace individuals may face increased emotional stress due to misunderstanding, stigma, or invalidation.
Common challenges may include:
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Anxiety related to dating, relationships, or disclosure
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Depression linked to isolation or feeling misunderstood
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Low self-esteem from being told something is “wrong”
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Shame or internalized stigma
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Relationship stress, especially in mixed-orientation partnerships
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Identity confusion or self-doubt
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Pressure to “fix” or change oneself
These difficulties often stem from external expectations—not from asexuality itself.
How Mental Health Treatment Can Help
Affirming mental health care can be deeply supportive for asexual individuals exploring identity or navigating challenges. Therapy provides a safe, nonjudgmental space to process experiences and build self-acceptance.
Mental health treatment may help by:
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Validating asexual identity and lived experience
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Reducing anxiety and depression
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Addressing shame or internalized stigma
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Supporting healthy communication and boundaries
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Navigating relationships and intimacy differences
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Strengthening self-confidence and identity clarity
Therapy is not about changing sexual orientation—it’s about supporting well-being and authenticity.
How Rosecrans & Associates Can Help
At Rosecrans & Associates, we provide inclusive, affirming mental health care for individuals exploring sexual orientation, identity, and relationships. Our therapists understand the complexity of asexuality and ace-spectrum experiences and approach care with respect and curiosity—not assumptions.
We support clients with:
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Identity exploration and self-understanding
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Anxiety, depression, and stress management
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Relationship and communication challenges
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Navigating societal or family pressure
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Building self-acceptance and emotional resilience
Our goal is to help clients feel seen, validated, and empowered to live authentically.
Frequently Asked Questions About Asexuality
Is asexuality the same as celibacy or abstinence?
No. Asexuality is a sexual orientation, while celibacy or abstinence are choices about behavior.
Can asexual people be in relationships?
Yes. Many asexual people form romantic, emotional, and committed partnerships.
Is asexuality caused by trauma or mental health issues?
No. Asexuality is not caused by trauma, hormones, or mental illness. It is a valid sexual orientation.
Can someone be asexual and still enjoy intimacy?
Yes. Asexual people have diverse comfort levels with intimacy, affection, and physical closeness.
Should therapy try to change someone’s sexual orientation?
No. Ethical, affirming therapy supports identity—it does not attempt to change sexual orientation.
You Deserve Affirmation and Support
Exploring an asexual identity can be a powerful journey toward self-understanding and acceptance. Whether you’re questioning, newly identifying, or seeking support for mental health concerns, you deserve care that honors who you are.
Rosecrans & Associates offers affirming therapy to help you navigate identity, mental health, and relationships with confidence and compassion.
Contact us today at 847-461-8414 to schedule an appointment and learn how we can support your journey.